We met at your Nebraska PostSecret Live! event last night. I’m the woman who drove down from Minnesota and who told my secret to everyone about why that was so significant to me.
Firstly, I want to thank you so much for everything. Your acknowledgement and validation of my struggle means more to me than you can ever know. I have never felt anything like that in my life. My heart is overflowing with love for everyone I met there.
Like you talked about, we often keep secrets from ourselves, and I think in the end the real secret was I couldn’t forgive myself. There is still a ways to go, but realizing this I can let go a bit and start to heal. I know I will never gain back what was lost completely. But like I said in my secret, I am gaining back a piece of what was lost. Right now that’s honestly more than I thought I’d ever have.
PS. Oh, and you managed to pull off my hat quite nicely.
If you're not watching it, it's a half-hour afterlife comedy about a slacker (Kristen Bell) who has been accidentally misassigned to the "Good Place" (Heaven) after her death, and has to keep the mistake secret from the powers that be (Ted Danson), while trying to figure out how to be a good person -- or at least a good enough person not to stick out. Fortunately for her, she's assigned a soulmate (William Harper Jackson) who was an ethics professor in life.
I don't know how to convince you to watch this. The show is so much stranger, more surreal, and sillier than the setup portends. It is hilarious and moving; it burns through plot like a brushfire (avoid spoilers, I mean it); and the cast is so good, I mean, they are so amazing, not just Bell and Danson, but newcomers like Jackson and D'Arcy Carden as an omniscient database and Jameela Jamil as a socialite philanthropist and Manny Jacinto as a surprising sweetheart. The first season is streaming on Netflix and the second season is airing now.
Spoiler note: the numbering for this season is confusing, since some sources consider the first hour, aired together in a single night, as a single episode. I don't. The latest episode I discuss below the spoiler cut aired 10/12/17.
( Spoilers have a thirteen-point scale where eight is the highest score )
The first set is some version of, we need clearer boundaries between work and personal life. Or, men are spooked and therefore won't meet casually with women employees. This group continues to assume the Weinsteins of the world are a product of some kind of misunderstanding - men and women get their signals confused, and whoops, a woman feels harassed. That's incorrect. Men know exactly what they are doing; they claim it was a misunderstanding after the fact to absolve themselves. When other men buy into the myth - by refusing to, say, meet privately with women for fear of being falsely accused - they not only stall women's careers, but shore up the narrative that predators are simply men who are awkward at expressing benign sexual interest.
The second set of wrong opinions suggests that Weinstein was only able to get away with it because he's powerful. This column is an example; it suggests that Hollywood is too deferential to talent. I mean, maybe that's true to some degree, but you also have stories like these, where Blake Lively couldn't get anyone to take complaints about a makeup artist seriously. Powerful men might be able to harass more easily, but fundamentally, this is not about worship of power or talent; this is about men who feel entitled to women, backed by other men.
I've been doing Yuletide since 2006, with the only gap being in 2007 when I was busy submitting my thesis (and even that year, somebody wrote me an NYR, so I feel that I participated in spirit). My love for Yuletide is, in theory, undimmed. But.
Work has been utterly mad recently, and is likely to stay that way until mid-November at least. More importantly, my love for Yuri!!! on Ice is still flaring, and I seem to be in the middle of a fic that's likely to be 25k+ when it's finished. (I've just posted chapter 2, go and read!) I am absolutely positively not letting anything get in the way of finishing this fic, including Yuletide. It needs to be finished by Christmas, ideally by the end of November, and without a doubt by the time that the 2018 Olympics actually happen.
Finally, I have to admit that I feel a little relieved at the notion of flying home for my Christmas holidays this year with absolutely nothing hanging over my head, not even a Yuletide story to be posted.
I'll be cheering all of you on; I'll be reading and bookmarking letters; I'll definitely hang out in chat from mid-December on; and if the fates align, I'll try to pick up a treat or two. But as for the rest of it... maybe next year. Alas.
Thank you so much for agreeing to ask your Facebook fans to help me decode these postcards from my Great-Grandfather in the 1800’s. He owned a farm and a mill and apparently was involved in a war that was going on at that time… We don’t know who he was corresponding with or why. None of us have been able to crack the code.
I just read all three decoded messages on Facebook I called my mother again and she was so excited. My Great Grandfather’s name is Harry (whom the cards are written to). She doesn’t know who the M is – and she found the one card that says “I am your true love” very interesting – – – because his wife’s name was Helen (eek!). Thank you SO very much and feel free to share this email with the P.S. community! You’re bringing so many smiles to my family right now!
This Sunday you posted the classic secret of Purell and a note to Katie from her mother. I saw that secret when it was originally posted as a Sunday Secret. It is the only secret I ever printed. I carried it in my purse folded up for YEARS to remind me that MY having OCD and Anxiety was okay. Nobody needed to tell me that because the literal secret in my purse told me. I was no longer ashamed and was able to be open and a self-advocate for my needs. Now as a teacher I often tell my students, who are struggling, about that secret. I am going to print the secret again and keep extras in my office for future people who need it What I’m trying to say is thank you and thanks to Katie. You’ve changed my life for the better.
Thank you Rutgers and CMU for two memorable and emotional PostSecret Live! events.
I appreciate your courage to share your stories and secrets and was not surprised by the audience’s compassion, understanding and support.
Telling our story can be transformative. Next stop Nebraska.
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Fandom: Anne of Green Gables (TV 1985) & Related Fandoms
Rating: General Audiences
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Relationships: Gilbert Blythe/Anne Shirley
Characters: Gilbert Blythe
Additional Tags: Fanvids
She'll never slow down for you. Anne/Gilbert